Long distance relationships: worth it or not?
This week during one of the radio shows I had as topic Long Distance Relationships. And honestly, you know that feeling when you try on a new dress and it fits perfectly, as if it was made especially for you? This is how I felt about this topic.
How hard is it to have a LDR? How worth it is it? How do you resist? You don’t miss your partner? What’s the point of it? It’s like you are single anyway. Oh come on, that’s not a relationship! These are just some comments that I have always heard during my LDR from people that decided to ask me or to tell me their opinion without asking me about it. There so, why not writing an article about it?
“How hard is it to have a LRD?” It is hard. And is beautiful at the same time. It’s hard because both partners have to work a lot on it and to put effort. But the most important thing, is not to create distance between them, not creating a wall, not becoming more separate, the kilometers are enough already.
“How worth it is it?” It is worth it. As long as both partners have the same goal: to end the distance.
“How do you resist?” Love makes you resist, no?!
“You don’t miss your partner?” Of course I do. Every day. But thanks to technology, missing someone became easier in terms of communication. We are all one phone call/text away from each other. We are a few hours away by flight. Everything is possible if you believe in it.
“What’s the point of it?” Well, what’s the point of any relationship, being long distance or not? The moment you both know that is worth it and you feel it, you can only imagine that if you manage to struggle through everything being so far away from each other, how you will both feel when you are together? Yes, the point is exactly that amazing feeling of being capable of going through everything together.
“It’s like you are single anyway.” Well let’s see. If your partner is in the same city with you, you’ll see him/her every day? Or you pay attention to build your own life and to live it? Exactly. Why being distant should change this or making it consider it that you’re single?
“Oh come on, that’s not a relationship.” A relationship means we. And we= me and you. And that’s all. Simple as that. Both partner know very well (or should know , hihi) what is going on between them. So no more opinions from outside.
A long distance relationship can be very beautiful as long as it exists a plans of ending the distance. As long as both partner don’t become more distant. As long as you respect each other. As long as you build your own life, and so does your partner. Being in a long distance could be worth it if love is strong enough and it’s mutual. If not, why should be worth it to be in a relationship in general anyway?! Love knows no color, no race, no age, no religion, no culture.