Love is like a box of chocolates; there are a LOT of ingredients( plus you never know what you get unless you bite into it). Surely we’re not blowing your minds when we tell you that more is at play in the game of love than just physical attraction or a shared passion for “Game of Thrones” and pizza rolls. According to one psychologist, there are 11 distinct factors that can leave you smitten. Despite what we said earlier, nothing about chocolate appears on the list.Ayala Malach Pines, a faculty member at the School of Management at Ben Gurion University in Israel, is a clinical psychologist who studies couples. Pines authored around 60 research papers in her career, and a handful of relationship books, one of which is “Falling in Love: Why We Choose the Lovers We Choose.” In this book, Pines breaks love down into 11 factors. So, why do we gravitate toward those certain charming weirdos we can’t help but love? Here’s what’ll do it, according to Pines:
Feeling single and salty? Don’t worry; we’re here for you. You can use the above points to track down a love interest, too. Because geographic proximity is a huge factor, for instance, hang out regularly in places where a potential date might also want to chill. And just keep going there. As psychologist Peter M. Vishton, Ph.D. explains in the video below, repeated exposure increases our liking for basically everything, whether that be music, exotic foods, or certain people. It’s a start.
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